Is it okay for parents to allow their teen to get on birth control?
A deep debate had centered for years on if parents should put their teen girls on birth control.
Many argue that its better they are on the birth control so they don't end up with an unexpected teen pregnancy.
Others say they will do it regardless of if they are on birth control or not, so put them on the birth control.
Then, you have the ones who think its flat out condoning sexual activity to allow their teen to use birth control.
Granted, sometimes there is nothing we can do about our teens having sex, but before it happens we can sure try to keep it from happening. And by this I don't mean scare them away from it. With teens, sometimes the more you tell them not too, the more appetizing it becomes.
Putting a teenager, especially the younger ones like thirteen, fourteen and fifteen, on birth control is basically telling them that having sex is OK.
Do we really want our kids to think that?
There are things you can do before you resort to putting your child, yes they are still a child, on birth control.
Be open about sex
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Make sure your teen knows that you will talk with them about sex. No matter what it's about, they may have questions about what certain slang words mean, they may want to know when you became sexually active, or to talk about sexual activity in their lives. Web MD says that "A sexually active teen (boy or girl) who is not using any birth control has a 90% chance of conceiving a pregnancy within 1 year." So, aim for abstinence but, realize that if you don't talk to them at all, then they wont realize that they can come to you. Always, always keep yourself open to your children.
Tell them about sexually transmitted diseases
Now, don't just tell them about things they already know like "Don't have sex because you might get something, you don't know what that other person has." Talk about each specific STD and even look up pictures on the internet. Hint tip: find the worst possible pictures of the diseases you can get. Make sure they know that birth control does not protect against STD's and that some will be with them forever.
Tell your story.
Telling your story to your teen may gross them out, but it will also make them realize that you are being open with them. No matter what kind of story you have it will impact them. If you had a teen pregnancy, they will know you simply want more for them. If you waited until you were eighteen or older, then they will see what a good example you are. That people actually do wait.
Assure teen girls that love does not equal sex.
Most teen girls end up having sex because they are on a quest for love. Talk about the difference between love and sex with your teen. Tell her that for him to respect her, than she needs to respect herself too. There is a lot of discussion that can be used for this, again you can use your own story if it applies.
Discuss the side effects of birth control.
Besides sex there are other problems that may occur from your teen being on birth control. Any woman knows how many hormones are in birth control. Do we really want our kids all jacked up on more hormones than they already have.
Birth Control also has a ton of side effects, depending on what kind is being used.
These tips are only a few of the things you can do before you resort to placing your teen on birth control. If you are uncomfortable talking to your teen, Planned Parenthood has a website with lots of information and where they can also ask experts their questions.
1
Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness.
Ask yourself why you aren't happy. Too often, relationships fail
because someone is unhappy and blames the partner. Your life is solely
under your control, with your relationship you have to take the good
with the bad. You need to give as well as take. This is with the
exception of domestic abuse.
2
Make and keep clear agreements. Respect the differences between yourself and your partner. Do not expect your partner to agree with you on every issue. Reach a mutual agreement or plan, and then commit to it. If you say you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time or call if you absolutely must be late. If you agree to have a monogamous
relationship, keep that agreement. Keeping agreements shows respect for
yourself and your partner, as well as creating a sense of trust and
safety. Safety is important.
3
Use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of view and to create a mutual, collaborative agreement or plan.
You can choose to be right or to have a successful relationship. You
can't always have both. Many people argue to be "right" about something.
They say. "If you loved me, you would..." and argue to hear the other
say, "Fine, you're right." If you are generally more interested in being
right, this approach will not create a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that, while you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, you love and share and learn from those experiences. And if you can't reach any kind of mutual agreement, that doesn't mean either of you are wrong.
4
Approach your relationship as a learning experience.
Each one has important information for you to learn. A true relationship
will consist of both partners who need to equally contribute. Not only
is that the only type of relationship that will work out, but it will
work out in both of your favor.
5
Tell the unarguable truth. Be truthful
to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people are
taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or their
partner's. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship,
even if your partner never finds out about it. For any sort of
relationship to work you need to have trust.
6
Forgive one another. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the past and focusing on the present.
It's about taking control of your current situation. Talk about the
issue and try to reach a mutual agreement on how to handle the situation
in the future and then commit to it. If you can't reach an agreement,
it's a bad sign. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same
pattern, it's a good sign. It's the only way to prevent yourself from
more disappointment, anger or resentment. Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone, do give him or her the time and space.
7
Review your expectations. Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. Everybody needs love, intimacy, affection, and affirmation.
Number 10
No, you don't look fat
The following
situation is familiar to most guys in relationships: You and your
girlfriend are preparing for a night out and, as you wait for her to
finish up, she comes out of the bedroom and asks, "Do I look fat in
this?"
The best answer I have come up with is, "No, of course
you don't look fat," followed by "you're beautiful" or other flattering
comments.
Other than ignoring your girlfriend's question, this
is the only way to come out of the situation unscathed; your other
answers will be twisted into something you didn't mean and door slamming
will likely ensue. Whether or not she actually is giving Shamu a run
for his money is irrelevant -- she feels chunky and your mission is to
put her fears to rest.
Number 9
I don't enjoy going to strip joints
Strip joints, like pornographic movies, appeal to our most primal
instincts of sex, which few men (if any) can ignore. It's simply a shame
that our girlfriends can't accept that we like seeing beautiful women
dancing naked on stage.
Despite this logic, the lie still
propagates in relationships because it reassures your woman that there
is no one else in the world worth fantasizing about. However, in
reality, it's natural for us to enjoy this genre of entertainment, just
as your girlfriend wouldn't admit to watching soap operas for the
handsome men and romantic sex scenes.
Number 8
We'll talk about it later
This little phrase helps most of us end an argument or potential
squabble. In most cases, we really don't want to "talk about it later,"
we never want to talk about it. Putting off the possibility of a blowup
gives us some time to underline the uselessness of arguing over
something so minute.
Although it's a potent tool in your
arsenal, make sure not to use it too often, or else its underlying
motives will become apparent.
Number 7
You remind me of Jennifer Lopez
The ultimate compliment to a woman can also be your biggest lie.
Comparing her to an incredibly beautiful movie star may raise her
self-confidence, but let's face it; is she really that hot? Congrats to
you if she is, but most of us cannot claim that big a prize.
Our
women are beautiful, but stretching the truth may actually do more harm
than good in certain cases. It's all about timing -- don't lay it on
too thick and you'll be getting breakfast in bed in no time.
Number 6
I love your cooking
Since some women can't make toast without a recipe book, there has to
be an "out" for guys who get stuck with the culinarily challenged. Your
best bet is to grin and bear it. Hey, at least she's cooking for you.
However, if you have to ingest antacids by the truckload, perhaps you
should start offering to help out with dinner. Otherwise, you may end up
having to eat blackened food for years to come.
I have been out of church for several years. I am a believer but not doing so
great on the walking the walk part
. I've seen several things happen in church with "church
people" that have just turned me off completely. I can't even go into everything
here but the gist of it is that many of the so called Christians in the church
were extremely judgemental, cliquey, and unwelcoming. I find people who are like
that to be very hypocritical of the Christian values and have no desire
whatsoever to be around them.
Do we have to go to church to be Christians? How do find welcoming churches? I
was raised in a Catholic but the last church but when i got older i went to baptist which I
really enjoyed. I guess I just wonder how important it is if the church is not
what it's supposed to be anymore. its a Short blog so please comment and let me know what do you think. thanks
for those who don't know what PICA mean..its an eating disorder people that have
that eat stuff thats not food.like,glass,dirt,clothes,paper,corn starch
etc...like me i used to eat starch but thank God i dont do it anymore
Pica: The Eating Disorder That's Not About Food
People who have non-food cravings — the need to ingest chalk, pebbles, wire, and the like — may have an eating disorder called pica. Yes, it can cause gastrointestinal problems, and yes, it is treatable.
Pica: Who Is Affected?
This non-food cravings eating disorder can be found in 10 percent to 32 percent of children between the ages of 1 and 6, according to the National Library of Medicine. These youngsters will eat paint, plaster, string, hair, and cloth. Older children consume anything from animal droppings, sand, and insects to leaves, pebbles, and cigarette butts. Teens and adults most commonly eat clay or soil, though people have been found to ingest lead, laundry starch, plastic, pencil erasers, ice, fingernails, paper, coal, chalk, wood, plaster, light bulbs, needles, string, and wire
Pica: The Symptoms
Symptoms of pica are generally related to what’s been ingested. These substances may contain poisons, toxic chemicals, or bacteria.
Once eaten, they can damage the gastrointestinal tract, and that can result in bowel problems, ulcerations, perforations, or obstructions, says Lugerner.
Pica: The Treatment
Certain tests can be a good start toward determining treatment, including hemoglobin to check for anemia, lead levels if paint or objects coated with lead paint have been consumed, and gastrointestinal tests to rule out infection in the case of soil or animal waste being ingested. As a first step, treatment should replace missing nutrients if applicable and address any other health issues.
This is what i really don't get how black men light or dark skinned prefer Certain type of black women like to them Light skinned women look better than Dark skinned women, because really its not about the skin color. i consider myself brown skinned and i think i'm beautiful not because of my skin color because of my beauty.. there's a lot of light skinned women that's ugly vice versa to all the african american black women out there, don't let your color let you down !
For the light skinned women that think she look better than a dark skinned women
Now, don't take this personally. ok? you ARENT the best looking color
out there, and what i mean by out there is IN THE WORLD. beauty comes in
different colors.
doesn't matter if your light or dark.. let me know what you guys think>
