How to get over your Ex Boyfriend

Breakups are the worst invention in the history of man. Nobody enjoys them. We yell, then we cry, eat 6 gallons of mint chocolate chip ice cream by ourselves.There has to be an easier way than the fighting, screaming, name calling, vase throwing madness that is most breakups. 

Maybe one day we'll figure out a better way to go through breakups. But till then, they're going to be hard. No matter what happened between you and your ex, it's time to move on, but the question is how do you start that process?

 Ladies, here are 10 positive ways you can get over your ex:

1.   Put away all remnants that remind you of your ex

   this includes everything  from a diamond ring to a post-it note that he wrote you. I'm not saying you have to get rid of them for good, but put them in storage or in the bottommost part of your closet,

    2, Make his name a bad word. 

   You'll need your friends and family's help on this one. Tell them that you are here and now, as of this very moment, not allowed to say your ex's name. Make sure your loved ones police you on this--and even come up with a punishment if you do slip and say his name. For maximum effect, make the punishment a chore you hate to do.

   3. Laugh.

    If you're feeling bummed about the breakup, spend your days laughing. Laughter is the easiest way to get your positive attitude back. It's impossible to be sad while laughing, right? Put in your favorite gut-busting laughter movies, listen to great comedy CDs in the car, and tell hilarious stories when you're out with your friends. If you keep yourself laughing, soon enough you'll forget completely about your ex and how lame he was!

   4. Do new things. 

    Avoid places and things you used to do solely with your ex. You don't have to deprive yourself of ever seeing another movie or anything, but stay away from your old haunts.

   5. Spend time with your loved ones.

    Most people would tell you to start dating again. But soon after a breakup, I consider that a mistake…for you and the poor guy you end up using as a rebound! Instead, hang out with your friends and family--people who love you already and can help you build yourself back up after your breakup. Once you're feeling good again, that's the time to get back out there in the dating world.

   6. Start a journal.

    Journal writing is a great way to get over anything. It gives you a chance to sit down with your feelings and really hash things out with yourself. If you've never tried journal writing before, give it a shot. List all the problems you had with your ex, write about the time when you wanted to leave his cheating ass at Disneyland, get it all out. This will help you on the recovery highway to getting over your ex.

    7.Pamper yourself.

 Take some special "you" time, to make yourself look as hot as possible. Make time for bubble baths, manis and pedis, and facials, massages…anything you can afford or get your hands on. For a cheaper alternative, have a homemade beauty night with your girl friends. 

 Stay positive. and tell yourself you will get over him. Life will go on. You can do it. One of these days, you'll wake up and he'll be so insignificant to you, you'll barely remember his name.

How to tell if your Girlfriend Loves you..

The secrets of how to tell if your girlfriend love you may not as hard to figure out as one might think. Does she or doesn't she? A very good question for a man that simply wishes he had the answers to life itself. With these signs a person can measure up the meaning behind a girlfriend's love, or friendship. Love is pure, love is kind. If it is love you hope to find then browse this list and you may see whether she does love or to set lust free. Remember, you must love yourself in order to love someone else.

 

 Patience. To be patient is key in any loving relationship. If your girlfriend is not patient it may not be love after all.

Body Language. A girlfriend's body language is important in figuring out whether or not she loves you. For instance, if she appears comfortable in respectfully touching you and has always adored holding you, there is a chance that she actually loves you  

 Planning. If your girlfriend's future plans include you then she's not only smitten, she's in love.

 Time Together. She wants to spend time with you.  She enjoys and looks so forward to it that she tells others, over and over again.

 Introductions. When she begins to introduce you to her mother, father, aunt, uncle and the rest of the family she could be in love. 

 Forgiving. When a girlfriend is forgiving, of near most anything, on levels most would not forgive - there is that chance she loves you. Love forgives, in a healthy manner. 

 Trustworthy. Honest means everything!  And if she loves you, really and truly loves you, she will trust you

Jumbo Braids(Poetic justice style)

i did my hair like solange knowles 5 months ago. they were very long and big,very heavy too. its a good thing i know how to do hair i can do it myself :) 

please comment let me know what guys think

My Journey of Losing Weight

I've gained a lot of weight for the past months. i went from 110Lbs to 130lbs to 155lbs :) i know I'm getting chubby but anyways i started taking this product (HerbalLife) and its been going okay not great but okay,. 

                                                                this pic was taken in 2007

                                                              2008 Pic I looked real good there

                                                           2009 i was losing weight

                                                              
                                                                      2010 Pic

                                                 i gained a lil bit of weight there :) 2011

                                                this is me 1 month ago March 2012

                                                                   March 2012

i cant show you guys a picture of me now till im ready lol but im working on it.. but i  been drinking this shake thats been working good so i will tell you guys more about it

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Im not looking to be a distributor so i can care less about the py plan but i will say the products are really goo and i will keep you guys updated. 

How to Show Your Boyfriend You Care

1. Ladies you know how the man always talking about if a woman don't do their job right the next one will.well im tired of hearing that line you cant let the next b*** take your spot so here's some things you can do to show him you care  

   • Tell him you appreciate him. Whenever he does something tell him you appreciate it. For example, "I really appreciate you picking me up. It was very kind of you. 

   • Massage! Give him a gentle massage from head to toe.

• Cook a fancy dinner. This is always interesting, especially if you do it together!

• always make sure you please him in bed 

  

   

Facts About Bullying

What Is Bullying?

Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior that is intentional, hurtful, (physical and psychological), and/or threatening and persistent (repeated). There is an imbalance of strength (power and dominance).

The above definition includes the following criteria that will help you determine if a student is being bullied:

• The mistreatment must be intentional.
• The mistreatment must be hurtful (physical or psychological).
• The mistreatment is threatening. The individual fears harms.  Fear their safety.
• The mistreatment must occur more than once. However, some disagree with this. They say one very hurtful event is enough to label it bullying.

What Does Bullying Look Like?

Direct Bullying Behaviors
Physical Bullying (a few examples)

• Hitting, slapping, elbowing, shouldering (slamming someone with your shoulder)
• Shoving in a hurtful or embarrassing way
• Kicking
• Taking, stealing, damaging or defacing belongings or other property
• Restraining
• Pinching
• Flushing someone’s head in the toilet
• Cramming someone into his or her locke

 Verbal Bullying (a few examples)

• Name-calling
• Insulting remarks and put-downs
• Repeated teasing
• Racist remarks or other harassment
• Threats and intimidation
• Whispering behind someone’s back

 Indirect Bullying Behaviors
Social/Relational (a few examples)

• Destroying and manipulating relationships (turning your best friend against you)
• Destroying status within a peer group
• Destroying reputations
• Humiliation and embarrassment
• Intimidation
• Gossiping, spreading nasty and malicious rumors and lies about someone
• Hurtful graffiti
• Excluding someone from a group (social rejection or isolation)
• Stealing boyfriends or girlfriends to hurt someone
• Negative body language (facial expressions, turning your back to someone)
• Threatening gestures, taunting, pestering, insulting remarks and gestures
• Glares and dirty looks, nasty jokes, notes passed around, anonymous notes
• Hate petitions (promising to hate someone)

Other Bullying Behaviors

• Cyber bullying: negative text messages on cell phones, e-mail, or voice-mail messages, Web pages, and so on Direct and indirect forms of bullying often occur together. All of these behaviors can be interrelated.

 What are the Warning Signs that a Child is Being Bullied?

• Sudden decrease in school attendance or skipping certain classes
• Decline in quality of academic performance
• Difficulty concentrating in class and easily distracted
• Wants to take a different route to school or different transportation to school
• Sudden lack of interest in school-sponsored activities and events
• Seems happy on weekends but unhappy and preoccupied or tense on Sundays
• Uses “victim” body language: hunches shoulders, hangs head, will not look people in the eye, and backs off from others
• Suddenly prefers the company of adults
• Frequent illness or fakes illness (headaches, stomachaches, pains)
• Nightmares and insomnia
• Comes home with unexplainable scratches and bruises
• Suddenly develops a stammer or stutter
• Angry, irritable, disruptive, aggressive, quick-tempered, and fights back (but always loses)
• Cautious, clingy, nervous, anxious, worried, fearful, and insecure
• Overly concerned about personal safety; spends a lot of time and effort thinking  or worrying about getting safely to and from school and getting around in the school (to and from lunch, to and from recess, to and from the bathroom, to and from the lockers); wants to stay in at night and prefers to stay home on weekends
• Talks about avoiding certain areas of the school
• Carries protection devices (knife, box opener, fork, gun)
• Frequently asks for extra money, saying it is for lunch or school supplies
• Possessions (books, money, clothing) are often “lost,” damaged, or destroyed without an explanation
• Sudden change in behavior (bed-wetting, nail-biting, tics)
• Cries easily or often, becomes emotionally distraught and has extreme mood swings
• Blames self for problems or difficulties; feels defective and inadequate.
• Talks about being made fun of, laughed at, picked on, teased, put down, pushed around, threatened, kicked, hit, called names, or students telling lies about them, gossiping about them, or excluding them from a group, and other bullying behaviors
• Talks about not being able to stand up for himself or herself
• Expresses lack of self value and self confidence
• Talks about dropping out of school
• Expresses lack of trust in and respect for school personnel
• Suddenly starts bullying other students, siblings, or children in the neighborhood
• Becomes overly aggressive, rebellious, and unreasonable
• Sudden loss of respect for authority figures
• Seeks the wrong friends in the wrong places
• Talks about joining or forming a cult
• Sudden interest in violent movies, video games, and books
• Talks about running away
• Talks about feeling depressed
• Talks about or attempts suicide
• Self harms (cutting, no eating, overeating)
• Drastic change in appearance

What are the Warning Signs that a Child Might Bully Someone?

• Enjoys feeling powerful and in control (Olweus, 1993)
• Seeks to dominate or manipulate others (Olweus, 1993)
• May be popular with other students, who envy his or her power
• Is physically larger or makes himself or herself seem larger than his or her peers; exhibits physical or psychological power, or both
• Is impulsive (Olweus, 1993)
• Exhibits low tolerance of frustration (Olweus, 1993)
• Loves to win at everything; hates to lose at anything and is a poor winner; can be Boastful
• Seems to derive satisfaction or pleasure from others’ fear, discomfort, or pain
• Seems overly concerned with others “disrespecting” him or her; equates respect with fear
• Expects to be “misunderstood,” “disrespected,” and picked on; attacks before he or she can be attacked
• Interprets ambiguous or innocent acts as purposeful and hostile; uses these as excuses to strike out at others verbally or physically
• Seems to have little or no empathy or compassion for others (Olweus, 1993)
• Seems unable or unwilling to see things from another person’s perspective
• Seems willing to use and abuse other people to get what he or she wants
• Defends his or her negative actions by insisting that others “deserve it,” “asked for it,” or “provoked it”; often describes a conflict as someone else’s “fault”
• Is good at hiding negative behaviors or doing them where adults cannot see them
• Gets excited when conflicts arise between others
• Is more likely to get into trouble, smoke, drink, and fight (Nansel et al., 2001; Ericson, 2001)
• Stays cool during conflicts in which he or she is directly involved
• Exhibits little or no emotion when talking about his or her part in a conflict
• Blames other people for his or her problems
• Refuses to accept responsibility for his or her negative behaviors
• Shows little or no remorse for his or her negative behaviors
• Lies in an attempt to stay out of trouble
• “Tests” authority by committing minor infractions, then waits to see what will happen
• Disregards or breaks school or class rules
• Is generally defiant or oppositional toward adults
• Seeks, even craves, attention; seems just as satisfied with negative attention as positive attention
• Attracts more than the usual amount of negative attention from others and is therefore disciplined more often than most other students
• Tends to be confident, with high self-esteem (Nansel et al., 2001)
• Seems mainly concerned with his or her own pleasure and well-being
• Seems antisocial or lacks social skills
• Has difficulty fitting into groups; may experience loneliness (Ericson, 2001)
• Has a close network of friends (actually “henchmen” or “lieutenants”) who
  follow along with whatever he or she wants to do
• Has average or above-average performance in school (Olweus, 1993); however, some studies say they may do poorly (Schwartz, 2006; Ericson, 2001)
• May have problems at school or at home
• Lacks coping skills
• Average in anxiety and uncertainty
• May be a victim of bullying

DO YOU REALLY THINK THE CHRIS BROWN REMIX TO THERAFLU IS FOR RIHANNA?

okay so i heard Chris Brown made a Remix to Kanye''Theraflu  and i heard he went on RIh Rih i love Rihanna :) but i really want to know what you guys think?

 

Apparently Rihanna didn’t enjoy Brown’s musical gift and took offense to a particular line in teh song which said; ”Don’t fuck with my old bitch, it’s like a bad fur/An industry n—a done had her”. Ri-Ri unfollowed Chris on Twitter over the supposed reference and posted “Aw, poor dat #neaux1currrrr,” on her own Twitter page. Not too sure what that means really/

Writting Thoughts

sometimes i feel like i people sometimes i feel like its best to be alone,sometimes i wanna shoot you sometimes i feel like talking to you,sometimes i wanna forgive you but i dont want to forget the pain you put me through,,why after we broke up i cant never find the right guy.why i dont wanna to look pretty anymore why i dont like the people that like me.why am i forcing myself to be friendly to people i dont wanna tallk to.......

IM SITTING HERE THINKING.DANM I MADE A BIG MISTAKE,THE NIGHT WE BROKE UP I SHUD OF WENT TO YO HOUSE N DESTROY THE BROKEN PIECES YO EX LEFT CAUSE I WAS TRYING TO FIX IT N U DIDNT LET ME.I DONT HATE YOU I JUST WANNA HIT YOU,I WANT YOU TO LOOK ME IN MY FACE N TELL ME U DONT MISS ME THE FIGHTS N MAKE UP SEX WE HAD,HOW U USED TO TELL ME I WAS TROUBLE,HOW CAN U LET THIS GO LIKE THAT.IM HURT CAUSE I BELIEVED YOU N NOT EVRY GUYS GET THAT FROM ME,I DONT WANNA NOBODY TO HAVE YOU IF I CANT HAVE YOU I DONT WANNA SHOOT YOU,I WANNA SET U ON FIRE THAT WAY WE BOTH CAN DIE TOGETHER.IM NOT AFRAID TO DIE WITH YOU.

ITS MARTHA ENTERTAININ ITS WHAT I DO FO A LIVIN ITS NOT WHO I AM I LIKE TO THINK DAT IM PRETTY NORMAL.I LAUGH.I GET MAD,I HURT, I THINK GUYS SUCK SOMETIMES BUT WEN U IN THE SPOTLIGHT EVERYTHING SEEMS GOOD.SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE I HAVE IT WORST CUZ I ALWAYS HAVE TO KEEP MY GUARD UP,I D K WHO TO TRUST I DONT KNO WHO WANTS TO DATE ME FO WHO I AM OR WHO WANTS TO BE MY FRIEND FO I REALLY AM......

MEND A HEARTBROKEN

What causes the physical feeling of a "heart break"?

A Broken Heart is when a human being suffers from an emotional or physical loss of another person or living being to the extent in which they began to ache and hurt inside. This is called having a broken heart, more commonly called Heartbreak.For many people having a broken heart is something that you may not realize at first, it takes time for an emotional or physical loss to be fully acknowledged. It can take a month or so, subsequent to the event from which the heart was 'broken' by, to realise that your heart is 'broken' and you are emotionally weaker and prone to depression.

how to get rid of that feeling?

Set short goals that are capable of being reached within the next two days, tomorrow morning wake early eat a good healthy wholesome breakfast. Put on some favorite clothes on that make you feel great. Fixate yourself on other people which can render love, e.g. family, friends and have a laugh. Look outside your window, view the full immense diversity of this world discover the amount of opportunity and potential which lies within yourself and is to be conquered

                                            **heartbreak quotes**

You never know what you have until you lose it, and once you lose it, you can never get it back.

My heart was taken by you... broken by you... and now it is in pieces because of you.